Father's day. I was stuck at the healing place, making it a "holiday routine" day - all of us on duty Sunday were dads.
I was kicking it, doing some editing while watching a movie in the day room. My phone went off, the text alert letting me know that someone has sent me a text. I dug the phone out of my pocket to see who it was.
The lcd display said that it was E, a friend and co-worker who I had not heard from for over a year and a half. I was very surprised, for E had passed away over a year ago. As I hadn't received another message or call from E's phone since the funeral, I assumed that the account was closed. I kept the contact as I think of E almost every day and I just don't want to delete it.
After my surprise wore off, I figured that it must have been E's wife and I opened the message. It simply said "Happy Father's Day".
I replied, still thinking it was E's wife: "Thnx, funny, I was just thinking about u. U seeing your dad 2day?
"I wish" was the reply.
I instantly realized that the sender of the message was not E's wife, but his son, who is now12 or so. Oops.
"Sorry Lad, I thought u were ur mom"
"Ya its OK
"I wish you could see your dad today too bud, I was surprised to see your dads number still worked, r u using it now?"
We texted back and forth for the next five minutes or so, mainly about about taking the phone to school and what happens when you get caught with it. I know from experience that teachers and principals do not like to see phones at school and will take them away. At my kid's school, when a phone gets taken for the second time, a parent has to come and retrieve it. Ask me how I know. E's kid goes to a catholic school, I imagine the same tough discipline is applied to him.
I determined that he (and I assume his mom) were on their way to grandpa's house to wish him a happy fathers day. As they were almost there, we signed off. E's son went about his day and I mine.
It was good to hear from E's son and I appreciate his greetings. I don't know if he struggles with father's day - many in his situation do. I'll call his mom in the next few days and see how he is doing. As she reads this blog occasionally she may beat me to the punch. As tough as E's kid is, it won't hurt to make sure.
I'm glad I kept E's contact info and am glad E's son kept mine. Now that I know the number is still good, I'll text him periodically and see whats up.
After he starts high school, maybe I'll try texting him during school hours, just to see if I can get him in trouble with the teacher. His dad would have gotten a kick out of that - except if would have had to meet with the principal to get it back. Then I would have gotten a kick out of THAT.
I hope your father's day was enjoyable, thanks for reading,